I'm sure many of you have been frustrated at one time or another. Maybe your kids constantly fight and they don't listen to you or your boss gets on your nerves. To release these frustrations you end up talking about it with friends or family. Maybe in those moments after venting you feel a little better, but does it really change the situation? Well, maybe you end up coming up with a solution - perhaps you'll confront the person who upset you, you're going to punish your kids for fighting, or maybe you decide to find another job.
But for some reason the problems continue.
You keep blaming these other people for your unhappiness. If only they would change so that you can be happy and start living the good life.
However, what's important to realize is that it's not those people who need to change - it's YOU who needs to change. When you change your perspective of the people or situations in your life, your life will indeed begin to change.
One of my favorite quotes from Wayne Dyer is:
"If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."
This is something that I've been working on these past couple months. I can tell you that the changes in my life have been quite profound - especially in my personal relationships - once I began to adopt this belief.
It's taken a great deal of "practice" not to complain or vent to other people when I have an issue with someone else in my life. Gossiping about other people was also part of this practice.
And of course, synchronicity played a role in all of this as well. I started reading Abraham-Hicks' book, The Astonishing Power of Emotions which further enhanced my learning. I've learned that given an undesirable situation, all I have to do is reach for better feeling thoughts instead of dwelling on the negative.
Telling other people about your problems only adds fuel to the fire. You will only keep attracting more of the same kinds of situations. Not only does this apply to interpersonal relationships, but it's the same for work or financial issues. Stating what is your current reality keeps you stuck.
It is only when you start affirming positive aspects of an unwanted situation that you will begin to experience change. You'll begin to feel better and those good vibrations will keep attracting more good vibrations. Although I've known this consciously for awhile now, it's wasn't until I actually started applying this philosophy to my own life did it really sink in. Wow, this Law of Attraction stuff really does work :)
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