Guest Post: How Having Confidence in Myself Scored Me an Incredible Job

Having confidence and strong belief is the first step to attracting anything you want in life.  In this guest post by Mariana Ashley, she shares her perspective on confidence and how it helped her get a job.    

If you are anything like I was a few years ago, you may think that the title of this blog article is yet another bogus one that's filled with empty promises. However, I'm a firm believer in the ability of a sense of confidence to lift you out of virtually any bad situation and catapult you to places you've only dreamed of. And I know this from personal experience, since every task or experience in which I had low confidence levels, I failed miserably, where the opposite was true when I was able to assert myself. Here are a few things I experienced in which confidence scored me my dream job.

1. All confidence is initially faked.
Other people, in many ways, are like cockroaches. They're just as scared of you as you are scared of them. As such, remember that if you have a tendency toward low self-esteem, know that the only way to build confidence from zero is to fake it initially. Then you will see how your confidence builds on past experiences. In my job search, whenever I landed an interview, I made sure to pretend that I wasn't super nervous.

2. There's a difference between cockiness and confidence.
Confidence, of course, has its limits, and it's usually the least secure of us who will resort to being cocky. The best way to avoid cockiness in the job search process is to be honest and humble about your qualifications. If you don't know the answer to an interview question, for example, say that you don't know, but proceed to hazard an educated guess. This demonstration of humility is oddly enough an enormous confidence booster.

3. The more you prepare for anything, the more confident you will be automatically.
Even though I mentioned that confidence is almost always initially faked, you can only fake so much. That is to say, feigning confidence can only be accomplished if you are first knowledgeable about your industry, the job market, the company with which you are seeking to work, and the type and culture of people by home you are seeking to get hired.

4. Being comfortable talking to people of all different backgrounds is half the battle.
Of course, confidence in the job search arena isn't usually about mustering up the energy and courage to challenge yourself about the job, or the tasks entailed. People tend to lose their confidence when dealing with other people. During my job search, I learned that communicating kindly and humbly but assertively is the key to success when it comes to dealing with people. If you want more concrete examples of how you can improve your people skills, pick up Dale Carnegie's classic How to Win Friends and Influence People or join your local ToastMasters.

Mariana Ashley is a freelance writer who particularly enjoys writing about online colleges. She loves receiving reader feedback, which can be directed to mariana.ashley031 @gmail.com.

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